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I recently shared the stage with comedian, actor, writer, and marine legend Rob Riggle. Rob is a good friend of mine. In fact, we’ve fished, played golf, and vacationed together for years. But walking on that stage to have a casual conversation with him in front of 30,000 people was a different experience. It was a bit nerve-wracking to say the least.
Now that it’s over, I look back and wonder why I was so scared.
Fear is normal and strange at once. I’ve seen how it affects anyone and everyone in different ways, but I’m very interested in how it can stop and limit how talented entrepreneurs are – and what they do about it. can do.
powerful effects of fear
Fear prevents many of us from realizing our full potential. It keeps us from making the kind of money that we should be making and turns us away from leaning into our passions or looking for investments to fuel our ventures. Ultimately, it prevents us from taking risks that could lead to our ultimate success.
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but why? Why do our body, mind and nervous system react in a way that limits action and ultimately holds us back? I wanted to answer these questions and, possibly, give the reader some actionable items to help overcome fear in order to find greater success and fulfillment in life.
I spoke with a good friend, Tracy Litt, a life coach whose approach combines neuroscience, consciousness, and practical spirituality to deliver next-level results and unprecedented success with the people she works with. Her brand, The Lit Factor, has helped thousands of women and entrepreneurs to increase their revenue, realize their potential, and overcome their fears in a practical, always better way.
Here are three key things he taught me about fear.
why are we scared
Why do we get scared in the first place? Fear is a deeply underlying biological response. Neurons fire, telling us we are in an uncomfortable or unfamiliar situation, putting us in a sympathetic nervous state to protect us.
There’s an important difference here: Fear is not a threat. Although they may feel the same way, there is a big difference between a shark fin wanting to come towards us in the water and speaking at a board meeting. Even though they may feel the same way, none are life threatening. Tracy says that understanding why fear exists, as well as recognizing the difference, is the first step to overcoming it:
“Fear only comes on the scene when you are expanding. Some are considered a threat to your system. When you are an entrepreneur whatever can happen because everything is scary and elaborate in nature. You Whatever you do (whatever it is) is the exact opposite of anything you’ve done before. So your body tells you you’re uncomfortable in a nervous-system-based way. However, if we recognize that we When experiencing what is not dangerous or life-threatening, we can begin to thank our fears and appreciate that we are in another position to find growth.”
At the end of this part of the conversation, Tracy said, “The goal is to learn to love our fear, appreciate it for what it is and what it means for what we’re supposed to do.”
We have been taught to counter fear the wrong way
OK that is good. You know where your fear comes from, but guess what? It is still present in your daily life. Are the slogans going to help? “Feel the fear and take the leap!” Correct? off course not! “Square your shoulders and be the man!” fat chance. This manly way of gaining power through fear is not only unhealthy but also 100% ineffective.
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We need to learn how to view fear correctly and realize that the way we have been taught about fear is wrong. Tracy teaches:
“The social message preaches an over-addiction to willpower and motivation, a wellspring that dries up really quickly. It’s not sustainable or not suitable for your brain to work. When you’re trying If you are not working with your human/spiritual self to power through fear.”
“When your fear response is ignited, it puts you in a sympathetic nervous system state (fanning, flight, fight, or freeze) as we are wired to defend ourselves. It Your state of tension. Therefore, instead of trying to power through it, it needs to bring us security by activating our vagus nerve (deep, slow breathing), taking us into a parasympathetic state, or our state of calm. Your pre-frontal cortex comes back online. Now, we can make our new conscious choices.”
Sounds complicated, doesn’t it? It may be easier than you think.
Here’s How to Overcome Fear the Right Way
Now, here is the most important part. In the words of Tracy: “Information is useless without application, but information with application is change.” So let us help you turn your fear into power and give you some amazing tips that will increase your potential to expand and succeed.
First: Pay attention. This is the pre-requisite for doing any other work internally. Allow yourself to non-judgmentally understand what fear is keeping you from doing what. Why is your power being sacrificed out of fear? Focus on the moments that keep you from acting.
Second: Build security. Safety, security, safety. Our fear response combats “unsafe” situations by employing self-doubt and other negative neurological responses. So, we need to give our system the protection it wants. how does it look like? It feels like deliberate breathing. We should start with deep, slow breathing. 4-4-4-4 breaths (count in one beat, count in one beat). We begin to put our neurological feet back on safe ground, allowing our conscious mind to make powerful decisions. Once we master this process, we can create security on demand.
Third: Learn and learn to communicate with your Higher Self. It’s not woo-woo or weird. Your higher self can be described as who you want to be five years from now. This is the better version of you. who is that person? How will they react in situations that your current self feels intimidated by? The better you can understand who that person is and how they act, the easier it is to imagine yourself acting similarly in the present. Then, you can more quickly let go of fear and be able to make conscious, confident decisions.
These tips are not only powerful but also self-sustaining. The better you are at mastering each of them, the greater your threshold for overcoming fear. Tracy says that with this method, she saw thousands of women not only reach their potential but also see that their previous potential was only part of what they could actually achieve.